We attract what we are, not what we want

I truly grasped what it meant to be “selective” with whom I enter relationships with: whether that be friends or romantic interests. 
Time, expectation and even emotion are not good indicators of who is worthy of being part of your life.  Having strong feelings for someone should not dictate whether you enter a relationship with them. 
“Settling” has nothing to do with appearance, status or wealth (or lack there of), but everything to do with CHARACTER and compatibility.  
Some people can only love you to the best of their ability, and that’s okay, but it’s not okay to settle for that type of love if you know you have much more to offer in comparison. 
Having a partner will not cure loneliness. 
The loneliest times of my life were spent in unfulfilling relationships, with selfish people. Having the tiltle of “boyfriend/girlfriend/best friend” does not signify security, dependability or even loyalty. Some people just don’t mesh and stick together for the wrong reasons. 
I have no desire to ever do that again.
I would much rather be alone than in the company of someone who is incapable of connecting with me on the emotional, mental and spiritual level that I desire. Who is incapable of taking accountability for their own  actions… Who passes judgment and blame on everyone who has ever wronged them. Oh, and most importantly, who doesn’t VALUE me and everything I have to offer. 
As I continue to better myself, I no longer wish to attract the things I “want”. I want to attract what I am. And what I am becoming is something great. 

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